Be encouraged just to be with your pain—do not try to rid yourself of it—and allow kindness and compassion to surround it. Paraphrased from: http://tinybuddha.com/blog/self-compassion-learning-to-be-nicer-to-ourselves/
Yes. Hard to do. But worthy of the effort of trying. If you have compassion and acceptance for others, then you deserve that for yourself. You do not see yourself the same way that others see you. Others no doubt see you as wonderful and worthy. You probably do not see yourself that way. I know I don’t. It is hard to accept one’s own worth and essential worth sometimes.
But work and meaning and goal and purpose take us (take ME) somewhere meaningful. It is difficult to see ourselves as necessary, but we of course ARE NECESSARY.
I know that you can think of at least one person that you are necessary for. My person has always been my son: for the past 18 years I have been necessary for him. He has needed me in a very fundamental way. What has often motivated me to be good, healthy, well-adjusted is knowing that he needs a parent who embodies all those qualities. I am therefore HIGHLY MOTIVATED TO BE ALL THOSE THINGS. 🙂
I think the key to having a purpose in life is finding a reason to be your best self.
“Never talk bad about someone who is walking a path in life that you were once on yourself. Even if it wasn’t the exact path, you had your version. Learn to pray for the hurting and those who struggle. Be a line of hope. Some paths are longer than others, with more hills to climb.”
This encapsulates my devotion to the UU First Principle. It is a reminder that people walk a road all their own that is similar to yours, but exactly the same. It’s the human commonality we have — this traveling on unique, humbling, glorious, painful, rocky, muddy, smooth highway we call life. Whenever I think others have a perfect life, I have to remind myself that what I see on their outside is not what is going on inside of them. Just because they *seem* to have it all doesn’t mean they really do, nor does it mean they haven’t been experiencing their own anguish.
Conversely, when I have seen deeply troubled or mentally ill people, I refuse to speak badly of them. I haven’t gone down their road. I have NO IDEA what it’s like to be deeply mentally ill or delusional. Online, I see people making fun of those who display “crazy thinking”. They get jumped on and treated badly. I hate that. It’s bullying and marginalizing. Having been bullied as a child, I’m really sensitive to that.
I do believe that the original sources of all religions should be taught, because with that we will find our similarities, not just our differences. I believe that if Mohammed, Buddha, Jesus, and Moses all got together they would be best of friends because the spiritual basis of all religions is something that builds unity.
Something as a Unitarian Universalist I totally agree with!!! The UU church has a wonderful inclusive religious education program that teaches the essentials of all religions. There are more similarities among religions than there are differences. Therefore, tolerance is key!!! I wish more people “got” that…..