You want to make me feel good about myself?
Tell me that you love all my books…
Tell me that you love me for my mind….
Tell me I have a fabulous child….
Tell me you think my cats are the best ones you have ever seen…
Tell me you’re grateful I’m liberal and non-judgemental…
Tell me you value my friendship…
Tell me you are happy that I want to be healthy and fit…
Tell me you want to come over and hang out with me just for the heck of it….
You want me to feel bad about myself?
Tell me I look sooo much better now that I’ve lost all that weight (because I was so ugly before)….
Tell me you like my new clothes (because secretly you hated all my old ones)
Tell me over and over that I’m shrinking (because I was gargantuan before)…
Tell me that surely I’ll get a boyfriend now! (because my value resides in having a partner or being sexually attractive)….
How does a person like to be appreciated? How do they like their friends to express their friendship?
What are people REALLY like on the inside? There’s only one way to find out!!! Get to know what they are thinking and feeling! If you are reading this right now, you are on my friends list and I would love nothing better than to hang out with you some afternoon and get to know you — really get to know you, what you are thinking and feeling. What’s your history? What’s in your heart? And I hope, deeply and sincerely, that you would love to spend a few hours doing the same with me.
“Never talk bad about someone who is walking a path in life that you were once on yourself. Even if it wasn’t the exact path, you had your version. Learn to pray for the hurting and those who struggle. Be a line of hope. Some paths are longer than others, with more hills to climb.”
This encapsulates my devotion to the UU First Principle. It is a reminder that people walk a road all their own that is similar to yours, but exactly the same. It’s the human commonality we have — this traveling on unique, humbling, glorious, painful, rocky, muddy, smooth highway we call life. Whenever I think others have a perfect life, I have to remind myself that what I see on their outside is not what is going on inside of them. Just because they *seem* to have it all doesn’t mean they really do, nor does it mean they haven’t been experiencing their own anguish.
Conversely, when I have seen deeply troubled or mentally ill people, I refuse to speak badly of them. I haven’t gone down their road. I have NO IDEA what it’s like to be deeply mentally ill or delusional. Online, I see people making fun of those who display “crazy thinking”. They get jumped on and treated badly. I hate that. It’s bullying and marginalizing. Having been bullied as a child, I’m really sensitive to that.
I do believe that the original sources of all religions should be taught, because with that we will find our similarities, not just our differences. I believe that if Mohammed, Buddha, Jesus, and Moses all got together they would be best of friends because the spiritual basis of all religions is something that builds unity.
Something as a Unitarian Universalist I totally agree with!!! The UU church has a wonderful inclusive religious education program that teaches the essentials of all religions. There are more similarities among religions than there are differences. Therefore, tolerance is key!!! I wish more people “got” that…..
It is not the end of the physical body that should worry us. Rather, our concern must be to live while we’re alive – to release our inner selves from the spiritual death that comes with living behind a facade designed to conform to external definitions of who and what we are.
The fact that I can plant a seed and it becomes a flower, share a bit of knowledge and it becomes another’s, smile at someone and receive a smile in return, are to me continual spiritual exercises.
Each one of us has our own evolution of life, and each one of us goes through different tests which are unique and challenging. But certain things are common. And we do learn things from each other’s experience. On a spiritual journey, we all have the same destination.
A. R. Rahman
Enlightened leadership is spiritual if we understand spirituality not as some kind of religious dogma or ideology but as the domain of awareness where we experience values like truth, goodness, beauty, love and compassion, and also intuition, creativity, insight and focused attention.