I Do/Don’t Like Memes

If your job is to tell me how to do my job. you should at least know how to do my job.

My Objection:

People fill different functions in both life and the workplace. Meaning, there are people with specific skill sets that need to perform a specific job and there are organizers/managers who do the things that free up the skill set people to do their actual jobs. As an example, if you have a lab and a group of scientists, they need to do their lab work and do their science. They ain’t gonna want to do paperwork and business stuff. So, to ask the manager to be the scientist and the scientist to be a manager is impractical.

It’s what I hate (in general) about memes: they summarize something, make it sound good, but miss out on nuances and lead people on to think something that is inaccurate.

What I Do Love About Memes:

Sometimes, they are incredibly funny and make me laugh. Sometimes, even when inaccurate or illogical, they do encapsulate a feeling or objection or essential truth that probably ought to be discussed and worked out. In the case of this meme, people don’t like “idiots” telling them what to do — idiot in this case being people they define as “you don’t know what I am doing, or how I am doing it, but I am doing my job, so just shut up.”  I can understand this feeling. You know what you are doing and have your own method for doing it. You probably figure, “As long as the result is good, what is the problem with the method?”

But in the end: THEY are not doing YOUR job, and YOU of course are not doing THEIR job. Ya’ll have different functions that may be occasionally at odds with each other. And there’s always personality and methodological issues….good lord, that is probably a whole ‘nudder post. People’s interactions and chemistry in the workplace. Yikes! LOL.

Empowerment of Children: Empowerment of Adults

I love it that children (regardless of gender) are empowered. Children in general are so often told “I’m the parent you are the child, you are going to do what I say” and even I have been guilty of this. BUT I think it is important to also teach children that they do have power and a say in what is going on with their lives. My son tells me I was pretty good about this with him — even though I do remember a few times exercising my “authority”

You cannot have adults comfortable expressing themselves unless you make it okay for them as children to express themselves. And often, being comfortable expressing yourself might mean expressing yourself in a socially unacceptable way or a way that is uncomfortable to others. This is fine, too. If we cannot accept a person’s worst behavior, are we really accepting of them as a person? What comes to mind is both children’s meltdowns and adults’ meltdowns. We all have them: they do not disappear with age. We just get better at hiding or suppressing or sublimating them.

I think it’s okay for children and adults to have meltdowns and tantrums. We need to get these feelings out of our systems. What is best is if we can do it in front of people whom we love, trust and respect.

And often, being comfortable expressing yourself might mean expressing yourself in a socially unacceptable way or a way that is uncomfortable to others. This is fine, too. If we cannot accept a person’s worst behavior, are we really accepting of them as a person? What comes to mind is both children’s meltdowns and adults’ meltdowns. We all have them: they do not disappear with age. We just get better at hiding or suppressing or sublimating them.

I think it’s okay for children and adults to have meltdowns and tantrums. We need to get these feelings out of our systems. What is best is if we can do it in front of people whom we love, trust and respect.

On Racism…

While I believe everyone has a right to their opinion and the right to express it, even opinions that are ugly or hateful or exclusionary or racist, I say make your point and be done with it. Hitting people over the head constantly with it does no one any good. It wins no adherents, convinces no one, and just turns people off. A constructive discussion on race and racism is good — demeaning and badgering people not so good. The US is a hotbed right now, let’s not further the divisiveness, instead let us be together in peace in all our commonalities and in all our differences.

Nothing brings people together like adversity or conflict. Sounds counter intuitive, I know. But I believe it. When we are challenged by our beliefs, challenged by people who disagree (even virulently) we react, think, change, unify. It helps to clarify our beliefs.

To me racism is just scapegoating….i.e. “the world would be better if…” or “things are bad because of….” What is joyous to me is that Germany, who scapegoated several ethnicities, is NOW ACCEPTING 500,000 SYRIAN REFUGEES A YEAR. Oh, so beautiful to me.

Blessings to all in the whole world, you are blessed by Spirit and the Divine, you are all worthy human beings. All of you. Without exception. Even the racist guy, the bigot, the asshole, the jerk, he (she) too has the blessings of the Spirit who hopefully works through them and heals them of their anger and pain.

If you are wondering – yeah, this post was inspired by several threads that I saw on a Facebook forum and I could not help but respond….

You want me to feel good about myself?

You want to make me feel good about myself?
Tell me that you love all my books…
Tell me that you love me for my mind….
Tell me I have a fabulous child….
Tell me you think my cats are the best ones you have ever seen…
Tell me you’re grateful I’m liberal and non-judgemental…
Tell me you value my friendship…
Tell me you are happy that I want to be healthy and fit…
Tell me you want to come over and hang out with me just for the heck of it….

You want me to feel bad about myself?
Tell me I look sooo much better now that I’ve lost all that weight (because I was so ugly before)….
Tell me you like my new clothes (because secretly you hated all my old ones)
Tell me over and over that I’m shrinking (because I was gargantuan before)…
Tell me that surely I’ll get a boyfriend now! (because my value resides in having a partner or being sexually attractive)….

How does a person like to be appreciated? How do they like their friends to express their friendship?

What are people REALLY like on the inside? There’s only one way to find out!!! Get to know what they are thinking and feeling! If you are reading this right now, you are on my friends list and I would love nothing better than to hang out with you some afternoon and get to know you — really get to know you, what you are thinking and feeling. What’s your history? What’s in your heart? And I hope, deeply and sincerely, that you would love to spend a few hours doing the same with me.