Empowerment of Children: Empowerment of Adults

I love it that children (regardless of gender) are empowered. Children in general are so often told “I’m the parent you are the child, you are going to do what I say” and even I have been guilty of this. BUT I think it is important to also teach children that they do have power and a say in what is going on with their lives. My son tells me I was pretty good about this with him — even though I do remember a few times exercising my “authority”

You cannot have adults comfortable expressing themselves unless you make it okay for them as children to express themselves. And often, being comfortable expressing yourself might mean expressing yourself in a socially unacceptable way or a way that is uncomfortable to others. This is fine, too. If we cannot accept a person’s worst behavior, are we really accepting of them as a person? What comes to mind is both children’s meltdowns and adults’ meltdowns. We all have them: they do not disappear with age. We just get better at hiding or suppressing or sublimating them.

I think it’s okay for children and adults to have meltdowns and tantrums. We need to get these feelings out of our systems. What is best is if we can do it in front of people whom we love, trust and respect.

And often, being comfortable expressing yourself might mean expressing yourself in a socially unacceptable way or a way that is uncomfortable to others. This is fine, too. If we cannot accept a person’s worst behavior, are we really accepting of them as a person? What comes to mind is both children’s meltdowns and adults’ meltdowns. We all have them: they do not disappear with age. We just get better at hiding or suppressing or sublimating them.

I think it’s okay for children and adults to have meltdowns and tantrums. We need to get these feelings out of our systems. What is best is if we can do it in front of people whom we love, trust and respect.